I want a manly man to take control of my body when I have sex. Cosmo’s “Pleasure Pick-Me-Up” is a position that will allow your man to really show you who’s the man.

Well … at least it will kind of appear that way because with you suspended from him (arms wrapped around his neck, legs around his waist) he will bounce you up and down as he grabs your butt and backs of your thighs. However, with your feet on the bed for support, you’re also an active participant.

You can be completely picked up and have sex in this position but he will get tired so this position is an excellent alternative.

The unique motion in Pleasure Pick-Me-Up creates different friction (more up-down, less in-out). It’s a great position to throw into the rotation.

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Feeling a little flabby?

The Cowgirl position not only puts you in control of your orgasm but Fitness magazine says that when the woman’s legs are braced on the bed or floor, this will engage her butt and core — their sexpert Yvonne Fulbright even compares it to riding a horse in that she will flex her lower abs and pelvic muscles in the position. Even the quads get in on the action when her quads or calves are pressed into the man’s abs and sides.

A good modification to work up to is coming onto the feet and squatting, thus engaging the butt, legs and hips. And in that position, the woman will need to lean on her hands for balance and get in a nice upper body workout.

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I’m pretty short. As desirable as I find having sex standing up, it’s no easy task for someone standing at an even 5 feet … Before reading what Cosmo calls “The Sofa Spread-Eagle,” I’ve ended up in this position when after a hot session I’ve stood on the bed to kiss my man and then wow! Realizing how perfectly our hot spots line up, we just get it on right there, standing.
It’s very similar to missionary — lots of frontal friction, however your feet and legs support you so your hands are free to touch and grab each other.

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Today I came across sex positions that double as workouts. To my surprise, missionary was the first one listed. According to Fitness magazine, you don’t have to let the person on top do all the work. With an equal, opposite thrust from the bottom you can get a core workout. However, to avoid injury, it’s important to thrust with your pelvis and not your lower back. You’ll also get a good butt workout by squeezing those cheeks while you thrust.

Finally a workout regime I can stick to!

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Cosmo calls this one the Spider Web. It involves laying on your side, legs scissored through your guy’s.
What I like about this one is the friction it generates. There’s more of a variety of movement involved rather that the basic “in-out.” Kissing is encouraged and contact can be made with each other’s entire body.

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During the “Butterfly” position, the penetrating partner stands in front of the receiving partner, whose legs can dangle over the edge of a bed or other platform. For more fun, the receiving partner can rest her legs on her man’s chest. For even more fun, the penetrating partner can kiss, lick and play with the toes. This can also be done as a kneeling position.

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Cosmopolitan magazine calls it The Love Seat, but it’s also known as the Reverse Cowgirl position.

Him laying with his back propped up, legs spread, gives you good support and reduces the space between you, allowing for more interaction. While he’s back there — why not a good massage? Your back, butt, neck … Maybe a little hair-tugging to really intensify the moment.

This is a great position when you — the one on top — is aiming to please, but that does involve some work on your part! While you’re on top, your hands and feet will propel you up and down on his shaft …

Nevertheless, you are in total control to make sure he hits exactly where you want. Good times!

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Pornstars don’t contort themselves on-screen because 90-degree-angle pile-drives feel better.

If porn was simply made with a camera, a tripod and a flat surface to fuck on, you’d see a heck of a lot of knees, backs, ears and man-ass and not much else. And who wants to spend $40 (or 5 minutes of download time) on that, when you can watch that kind of amateur stuff online for free.

Porn directors need “the shot” just as much as Hollywood does. Cameramen need to get sex on tape from as many angles as possible, which means oftentimes porn stars must hone their inner Russian gymnast to maintain positions without their legs/arms/torsos getting in the shot. (What good is watching a BJ on DVD when you can’t see the girl’s face as she swallows it whole?)

But remember, just because she’s moaning, screaming and flailing about doesn’t mean she’s enjoying herself. The performer is doing just that — performing.

So if you want me to “fuck like a porn star,” I’ll start stretching — but start practicing your Johnny Depp impression (post-”Edward Scissorhands,” pre-Tim Burton) because next week I’m going to ask you to “act like a movie star.”

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