I like to think of my dating pool more as like a garden. In my garden there’s various species of vegetation — some are seasonal, some are evergreen … some go extinct. Nevertheless I put my green thumb to work and seeds are constantly being planted and weeds being picked out. I water my garden with my attention, time and affection. With my selection, I’m never bored, and when one rebellious flower isn’t blossoming like I hoped I have a whole field of others.

When you keep your options open, the lack of attention from one doesn’t matter as much. There are a dozen others waiting to be sprinkled with your worthy consideration.

It keeps me from sitting by the phone waiting and wondering, obsessing … and makes me more desirable because I’m not overdoing it with the showering of affection on just one person. I keep my dignity and my mystery. Win-win! Dating should be fun and even when you’re looking for “the one,” why not enjoy the possibly long journey with different people? A little practice on your flirting, seduction, makeout, sexual (etc.) skills can be beneficial in the long run.

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